Recently I drove by a school after hours and saw a woman I can only guess might have been a teacher leaving for the day. She had a bag in each hand and looked exhausted. She paused to readjust her grip and closed her eyes for a minute saying some silent prayer or curse – not sure which. And I wondered what the rest of her story might be. Had she had a difficult day? Had she finally had a breakthrough with a challenging student? Was she headed home to a lonesome and quiet house? Was she bracing herself for the rush of children or pets that would greet her at the door? Was her mother ill or had her father just remarried? Did she hate cooking dinner every night or relax with a glass of wine and classical music while chopping vegetables? What was going on that the eyes couldn’t see?
You’ve probably heard that we are who we are because of the life we’ve lived. The things that happen in our youth help shape who we come as adults. Those opinions we form in our impressionable teen years influence our lives decades later. Even things that happen in our adulthood can impact us a little…or a lot. That’s life! It’s always giving us opportunities to grow.
What I find important to acknowledge, though, is that it’s not just what happens in our lives. We are also who we are because of who happens to be in our lives.
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So…to catch everyone up….we were going to retire from the Navy. And now we’re not. And all of that happened so quickly, it seems. It wasn’t overnight, but it was over a few sleepless nights…let’s put it into perspective.
May 2013…we moved to New Mexico
October 2014…we moved to Connecticut
May 2015…we moved back to Washington (that’s where we were prior to New Mexico)
April 2016…we decided to retire and move back to New York (which is where we’re originally from)
January 2017…decided to not retire and move to the Washington DC area
It’s March, now. Continue reading
*Trigger warning – this post is about sexual assault and its aftermath in my life.*
“Occlumency, Potter. The magical defense of the mind against external penetration. An obscure branch of magic, but a highly useful one.”
Severus Snape, a professor at the school for wizardry that Harry Potter attended, gave Harry this definition. Harry wasn’t a great student in these one-on-one lessons but eventually he figured out how to block another from his mind. It seems to me that he figured it out once push came to shove and he really needed it.
In Harry’s case, they were trying to keep him from connecting with one person who was getting into his head. Through the books, though, I started to think of Occlumency as keeping evil out. And I think I’m still learning.
Politics. It’s a thing. It’s not my thing. At least that’s what I say. I say that because I don’t get off on the nasty. I don’t debate well either. And I’m not at either extreme of any political spectrum. When I think of politics, those are the things I think of.
I’m considerate of other people, even those I don’t agree with. I’m thoughtful, rather than quick in my answers. And I’ve always said, “If there’s a fence, I’ll straddle it.” My values are much more moderate, even when on the right or left side of the middle. And I know that’s all part of politics too. It’s just not what comes to mind.