There are a lot of nouns pulling on us all at any given time. By nouns I literally mean nouns: people, places, and things. By any given time I mean every moment of every day. I’m being pretty literal today. Making it easy on you!
Think about it, though…
As soon as you wake up in the morning, maybe you’ve got an alarm clock making noise in your ear to break you out of your dreams or maybe you wake more naturally. After opening your eyes you may have children staring at you or cuddled next to you or downstairs watching some nonsense on TV. Maybe you’ve got a job to get ready for and the shower calls your name. Or maybe you’ve got the chance to head to the gym before that shower. Maybe it’s none of that and it’s all you can do to trudge to the kitchen and make the perfect cup of coffee to help you greet the day. However you wake, you haven’t been awake for an hour yet and you’re already feeling the connections you have with the world tugging at you to get up, get awake, and get on with it.
After breakfast, the day is full of pressures and obligations and demands. It doesn’t matter whether you’re an executive of a big ol’ company or a little ol’ family. It doesn’t matter if you work a 9-5 or are on call every hour of every day. Nouns require things from us – our energy, time, money, and more.
If you’re like me, you might get occasionally overwhelmed with the realization that you’re tied to so many people (children, friends, family, business associates, customers, acquaintances – heck even strangers in need of some sort of support pull at my heartstrings), places (my house, my community, my colleges), and things (social groups I’m a member of, sports teams my children play on, my husband’s command, my desire to write) and feel like throwing your hands in the air. Yes, literally, like you just don’t care. I mean, sometimes that sounds like a fantastic option!
But what else helps when escaping to a beach somewhere isn’t really going to happen? Everything that helps me has one thing in common – it meets me where I’m at. Here’s my list:
- Scott. My husband. He’s something special and he doesn’t like it when I get all mushy about it, but it’s the darn-tootin’ truth. He loves me when I’m up and when I’m down and everywhere in between. He supports me when I need it most and encourages almost every idea I have. He gives me the time I need to figure life out. He has never once asked me to change, not even subtly. He truly and honestly loves me wherever I am mentally, physically, and emotionally.
- Some friends. Let’s me honest, not all friends support me unconditionally. And I’m realistic and okay with that. But there are some that do. There are some that let me vent without judgment and build me up when I’m ready to fall. They meet me where I’m at for coffee or lunch or coloring.
- Yoga. This is a new one for me. I’ve only been consistently doing a yoga class for about a year. I’ve found, though, that this exercise is exactly about meeting you where you’re at! The instructor encourages us to go only as far as our body will go. If it’s not as far as our neighbor, that’s okay. “It’s not a contest. If you feel a stretch, you’ve won the prize!” I love that. I honestly feel like I have won and so have my incredibly elastic neighbor on one side and even more novice neighbor on the other side! And at the end she always reminds us to thank ourselves for our practice that benefits not only our bodies, but our emotional and mental selves as well.
- Faith. I’ve always drawn a difference between religion and faith. I’ve always found that when human beings muddy the waters, relgion doesn’t always meet me where I’m at. But, if I’m looking solely at my connection with a higher presence, with the energy around and in me, with love in its purest form – that exists clearly right where I am. And it won’t fail me. My faith is a comfortable place to land and simply be.
And that’s what helps me. I don’t know if your list would be similar or not, but when thinking about it, I encourage you to consider who and what will meet you where you’re at – no matter whether that place is frazzled, frustrated, on top of the world, or down in the dumps. We all feel pulled in dozens of directions, but where can you be who you are where you’re at right now?