Dear Cosmo Reader,
I don’t usually check out the check stand nonsense. Tabloids, getting skinnier by (fill in the blank), and the newest sex tricks aren’t my cup of tea. However, I had to wait an exceptionally long time for my turn the other day and saw the cover teaser that put me over the edge.
“Decode His Devious Mind Tricks!”
Really? This is what we’re promoting now. I’m disgusted and angered by this. But before I get into that, I need to admit that I’m not completely sure it was Cosmopolitan Magazine that grabbed my attention with this line. But, it doesn’t matter. There are so many “fashion mags” that promote similar sentiments. This post is about all those wastes of paper.
If you read these publications…how about you stop? I’m not sure what they tell you that you need know, but I do know what they tell you that you don’t need to know. So, let me give you some counter-advice from what you’d get from this crap.
- You don’t need to lose ten pounds this week or five sizes by any point. If you want to, go ahead. Be healthier, skinnier, whatever your goals are. But don’t look at the photo-shopped images on the racks or read the “how to lose weight” nonsense because you think you’re not good enough at your current mass. I’ve said it here before and I’ll say it again and again and again. You are good enough. Weighing less or wearing a smaller jean size will not create sudden and complete joy in your life. Put in the effort to be content as who you are right now.
- Sex. I’m not an expert, but I considered becoming one. (I think that’s like being a doctor on TV.) I have studied it in coursework. I used to sell sex toys. I like to have sex. Those are my qualifications to say what I am about to say: If you want to have better sex, talk to the person you’re wanting better sex with, maybe even whilst you’re having sex. Pay attention to what makes that person sigh contentedly and what makes him or her tense up. Sighing – good. Tensing – bad. Ask, “Do you like this?” or “Does this feel good?” Good communication makes for good sex.
- The best outfits that will make you feel sexier and more confident are the ones that you like. If you feel good in jeans and a t-shirt, wear a t-shirt and jeans! If you like lacy underwear and a matching bra under your most solemn business suit, by all means, wear it! If you like the way workout clothes hug your body or how comfy oversized sweaters are, wear those! Don’t let the newest addition of anything with a celebrity on it be what tells YOU how to make YOU look better. YOU look good when YOU feel good.
- And, lastly, for the love of all things good and holy…if your man is playing mind tricks, cut him loose. If your BFF is playing mind tricks, he or she is not really a friend at all. Healthy relationships aren’t about trickery. They’re about honesty, openness, support, and encouragement. Don’t decode mind tricks. Don’t allow them in your relationships. Get counseling. Get out. Something other than learning to crack the code. Love yourself enough to require candid conversation be part of your relationships.
So, in conclusion, if you purchase these magazines, please let it be to make confetti with, not for mental consumption.